When you are dating online, figuring out how to weed through the different profiles and how to find the best person for your needs can be a heady task. This is particularly true when you are using larger dating sites where you may get as many as 100 messages a day. This can seem crazy, but trust me, it does happen if you’ve got a good profile and a few good pictures of yourself!
These quick tips will ensure that you get through the messages and get to speak with people you actually want to date in a timely manner.
My Top Tips For Online Dating
Eliminate Mr Creepy
First, delete messages from anyone who seems creepy or who comes across as too forceful. If you feel uncomfortable with the first message, you won’t end up having a good time getting to know this kind of person. First impressions are important and you don’t want to allow someone who makes a bad impression on your life. You can live without the drama and aggravation.
If you’re new to online dating and you haven’t come across anyone truly creepy yet, trust me, you probably will. Here is an eye-opening video of three very creepy online dating stories.
Weed Out Mr Jerk
Second, weed out the messages from people who say they are already in a relationship or who have a sob story that seems just too good to be true. These are often men who are looking to have sex with women without commitment and who aren’t going to be good dating material if you’re looking for a serious relationship.
If a man opens with a sob story, he is either cheating on his current partner or not he is simply ready to be in a relationship, both things are things that you don’t need to deal with.
If you need help becoming a better online jerk detector then check out this article from womanshealthmag.com.
Get Rid Of The Fakers
Third, get rid of anyone who isn’t using a real picture. These people could be anyone and they could be trying to get your personal information to scam you or harm you.
Seriously, we really need to be careful of our safety online. Absolutely do not meet up with anyone who you get a strange vide from, is not being honest with you or seems to be hiding something. If you think the person may be a weirdo then just block them.
Fourth, make sure that they are willing to meet in public. Anyone who pressures you to do otherwise is likely to harm you and is not someone that you want in your life. Never take a chance with this.
If you want to feel extra safe then ask a friend to come along with you, but perhaps sit at a different coffee table so the guy your meeting doesn’t realise that you have a friend nearby watching your back. Safety is very important and any real friend would not mind doing this for you.
Paying attention to these tips will help you to get through the all the nonsense and time wasting messages and onto a date with someone you like in far less time.
eHarmony.com is one of the top and most trusted dating sites. They have lots of great information for women on all areas of dating on their blog. Here is a good article from them with some great safety advice.
The Dating Phase
Once you’ve found someone who you think you can connect with and of course, can be trusted then you’ll naturally want to meet up with them. If he’s not a jerk or a creep then hopefully, the two of you will hit it off. As exciting as this phase can be, it is still important to bear in mind your safety until you feel you can completely trust him. For tips on the dating phase and getting into a relationship with him, visit boyfriendhelp.net/ for some great info.
If you’re not too sure if your online prospect can be trusted or if something may be amiss but you just can’t put your finger on it, then this article from Cosmo may her you.
If you’ve gotten to the stage where you’ve been out with your new man a few times and you have been able to spark that chemistry and make him feel attraction towards you, then you must be feeling pretty pleased with yourself.
So if you’re thinking he’s pretty great and would like to take things a bit more seriously with him, here is the next stages to make him actually fall in love with you.
You may be wondering if it is actually possible to have such an impression to make a guy fall in love with you. The answer to this is, yes and no. Let me explain what I mean.
Making A Guy Fall In Love – Is It Possible?
It’s not too difficult to attract a guy and make him like you, but love is a little more tricky. Yes, I do believe this is something that we can have some measure of control over by doing the right things that will trigger feelings of love in him.
The first step to making him fall in love with you is to understand the psychology of men.
Of course, not all men think the same, but there are certainly common qualities and ways of behaving that men respond to, similar to attraction.
It is important to bear in mind that most men are commitment phobic by nature, very few men will be ready to jump quickly into a serious relationship from the off-set.
Keeping this point in mind is a critical step to ensnaring him long-term. If you get too heavy with him too early on or talk about living together, babies and all that other stuff that men just don’t wanna hear in the initial stages of a relationship, you’ll send him running in the opposite direction.
The same goes for ‘assuming’ that you guys are now in a serious relationship and acting that way before it has been stated on his part. If you do this, he will likely start to feel trapped and look for a back door. My sister did exactly this with the last guy she was dating. Bless her, she had no idea that this would scare the bejesus out of the guy! Unfortunately, the relationship didn’t last too much longer after that and the guy wound up breaking it off.
The trick is to play the early stages casual and light-hearted and just let him believe that the two of you are not getting too heavy too soon.
Although all guys need the time to go through this process, for some it may be as short as a month or two while others may take six months or more. The more commitment phobic he is or, the more he has been hurt or messed around in the past, the more time he will need at this stage.
When it does finally come to the point where it is becoming apparent that the two of you are getting more serious and he seems comfortable with it, let him think that it is his idea and wait for him to demonstrate or even verbally state that things are getting more serious.
Understanding the Mechanism of Love
Falling in love has been psychologically broken down into a process. By following this process, we can gain a little handle on this wonderful formula and turn it a degree to our advantage.
So what is this magical process?
Well, it starts off by the two of you hanging out and enjoying each others company, laughing and just generally having fun. Then, later on, when you are not around, if he is really into you then he will start to find himself thinking about your time together and remember all the qualities you displayed that he liked.
These qualities that men are attracted to include a woman who is upbeat, happy, fun-loving and kind-hearted, so make sure you display these great characteristics wherever possible.
From there, he will start to feel a warmth in his chest or a connection when he thinks about you, or both. This is the first signal he will recognise that he likes you a little more than he thought.
The, he will start to find himself thinking of you at random moments in the day. The nail in the coffin is when he starts bringing your name up in conversations with his friends and family. He may not realise it at first, but once he starts saying your name out loud in conversations, you are embedding deeper into his psyche.
So how can you use this information?
First, look to see how he reacts to you during conversations and in playful situations. Does he occasionally stop what he is doing and allow his gaze to linger on you a little longer than normal? If so, take note of what it was you were just doing that caused him to look at you in this way. Occasionally and casually repeat back the behaviour when appropriate. Be careful not to over-do it, though, or he may start to recognise what you are doing.
Listen to see if he mentions that he has told his friends or family members something about you. This is an excellent sign.
During the conversation, occasionally and playfully touching him on the hand or arm is an excellent way to create more closeness and attraction between the two of you.
Studies have shown that touch can increase the closeness and comfort level in a variety of different relationships. As for romantic relationships, touch can help to increase the bond the two of you feel and also build the attraction as well.
If he tells you a joke or playfully teases you about something, give him a gentle punch on the arm or in the chest. Men find this endearing when women do this.
Connect on a Mental Level
Flirting and having fun are great, but after a while, this can get a little boring if there is no intellectual stimulation.
Find out what he is into and ask him questions about it. Discover what in particular causes such fascination in him about that and try to spark an interesting conversation about it. Doing this will not only help the two of you to establish a deeper and more meaningful connection, but it will also show him that you are not conceited and self-obsessed.
Ask him about his career, his goals and ambitions in life and where he sees himself ten years from now. Ask him why those goals are important to him.
Sticky eyes is an eye contact technique I learned in my teens from a book I forget the name of. To use this method is very simple, but also tremendously powerful in creating a deeper attraction in the other person.
When he is talking, look into his eyes as you are listening to him. Be present, at the moment and pay attention to what he is saying. Agree, and respond in a normal conversation. Wait for something in your environment that would distract you from the conversation, for example, a waiter coming over to take your order, a load noise in the distance and so forth. Once this distraction has taken place, allow your head to turn ever so slowly towards the offending object while allowing your gaze to stay on his eyes.
As you slowly turn your head away from him, allow your eyes to linger on his eyes for just a few seconds more before fully turning your attention to the offending object.
Doing this subconsciously tells the guy that you are so captivated by his presence and what he is saying that it is hard for you to draw your gaze away from him. This will create deeper feelings of attraction in him.
So it can be entirely possible to make a guy fall for you. It all comes down to you firstly establishing a good connection with him, displaying the universally attractive qualities of being fun-loving, up-beat and kind-hearted and then as you get to know him better, you can start to pick up on the things that this guy also finds especially attractive by paying attention to him and observing his reactions to you. Once you do this, you can start to take a mental not of each time he is compelled to pay closer attention to you and then periodically repeat back the behaviour to him occasionally in subtle ways.
Seducing your man so he falls in love with you can start right from the beginning of the relationship, well, from the point that you have decided that he is the right one for you of course. Many couples nowadays meet through online dating so people are naturally more cautious of getting to know someone in this way, and rightly so. However, once you both get the chance to spend some time together face to face you can start assessing him right away for eligibility to your heart.
If you are single and wanting to find a boyfriend, there are many things that you can do to attract a man. Here you will find five tips that will help you become more attractive and desirable to men. You can use these tips before you go on a first date with a guy to really help give a good first impression!
Don’t Overdo The Makeup
Do wear makeup, but avoid wearing too much makeup. As you probably know, by wearing makeup, you can enhance your looks and bring out all your best features. It is important that your makeup looks natural, however, and not fake. So if you are already wearing makeup and wear a good bit of it, tone it down just a little and make your makeup more natural.
Try to avoid overdoing the fake tan as this just ends up making a person look orange, which isn’t attractive.
Get Your Hair Right
Fix your hair. It doesn’t matter if you have short or long hair, there are lots of things you can do to make it look amazing. Fix it up and make sure it looks nice. You can curl it if it’s long or wear it in a new style.
Clothing Is Important
Wear clothing that is flattering. You don’t need to wear tight or revealing clothing to attract a man. Wear what you feel comfortable in, and that flatters your body type at the same time.
If you feel comfortable in what you are wearing then, you will be able to come across much more naturally and confident, which will help you to appear more attractive. You will appear more attractive to guys by wearing what looks nice on your body rather than skimpy clothing.
Believe it or not, there are many men that pay attention to the jewellery women wear. Many men find earrings and other accessories very attractive on a woman. Some may find necklaces or bracelets attractive. There is no need to go all out and wear all of it but start by wearing something different every day.
Have confidence in yourself. Self-confidence is quite attractive to men. Even if you aren’t looking your best, you can still exude confidence. Believe in yourself and confidence will come out through you.
Focus your attention on your great features and what you love about them. You will begin to love yourself and have more confidence in yourself over time.
Making yourself more attractive to men doesn’t have to be hard. In fact, there are many more things that you can do besides these tips to not only enhance your physical appearance but to also improve the way you carry yourself.
Men are very visual, so working on your physical appearance is important. However, also pay attention to things like your posture, how you speak, your manners and how you interact with a guy as all these things do make a difference in how a guy sees you.
You’ve finally got it, a date with the guy of your dreams. You’re so excited that the butterflies in your stomach are beginning to turn into birds. Now the only question is, what to do on your first date.
You don’t want to appear too forward or give him the wrong impression. It is always best to meet for the first date in a public place. This will make both of you feel more comfortable and will also give the two of you plenty to talk about. So, what are the best options?
These tips should help you to choose the best things to do on your first date to help you get to know each other in a low-pressure environment.
Find out what his favourite food is and suggest you meet in that type of restaurant. It doesn’t take a lot to discover this. You can find out as your getting to know her via text, online or in phone conversations.
A restaurant is a great place for a first date as if can help to provide a relaxed atmosphere for you tow to have a good conversation and find out about each other.
Furthermore, restaurants are a good place for people watching so will provide lots of conversation opportunities if one of you starts to get tongue tied.
If you’re not up for the food thing or if you don’t quite feel ready for that, there are a variety of fun activities that you can enjoy together.
Such things as mini-golf are great fun (even if you’re really bad at it). You’ll have fun walking through the course and getting to know one another.
There are other fun activities that can be done as well. If in doubt, give him the option of two or three different ideas and let him choose.
The great thing is that guys usually need to take the lead and suggest the setting for the first date, so this takes the pressure off of you. However, don’t be shy to suggest one or two things that you think will work well.
Meet At The Park
Meet at the park and have a picnic lunch if the weather is conducive. Stop at the local deli and pick up some chicken and potato salad and plan on a simple picnic in the public eye.
As mentioned earlier, planning something in public is less threatening and will help the two of you relax with each other. You could also plan on a rousing round of frisbee or yard darts if you’re adventurous.
Find a local fundraiser and volunteer together. You’ll have fun getting to know one another while helping others. This also shows your kind and caring side, which is always a good thing.
This is also an excellent way to learn how the other person acts when helping others.
Attend a local festival event together and stroll through the various exhibits.
This can be a fun way to learn what each other likes and enjoys. Take your time and laugh together.
These ideas will help to open up other ideas for the two of you to explore later on if a second date is on the cards.
Hello and welcome to my new dating and relationships blog. Relationships is a topic that is close to my heart and through a lot of research and experience in the field, I have become somewhat of an expert on the subject.
I am not an official expert so please do not take my words literally or as gospel, but I have accumulated a good knowledge of dating and the differences between men and women that I have been able to help out several of my friends in some rather dire relationship situations.
So I have decided to start this blog to share my research and experiences online and hopefully I will be able to give a few people some insight as I go along my blogging journey.
One question that many of my friends have is, ‘What does it mean when a man goes cold in the early stages of a relationship?’
This is a very good question and is one that perplexed me for several years until I finally got insight on this from a few of my guy friends. Once I had spoken to them it really did help me to understand guys a lot better and made my dating experiences from then onwards much more fun.
Basically, guys do this for several reasons;
Too Fast Too Quickly
He’s feeling nervous about moving too quickly and getting into a new commitment. Most guys can be quite reserved about commitment and in the early stages of a relationship they mostly just want to relax with you, have fun, find out who you are and not feel pressured.
If you give him the impression too soon that you are getting heavy or are viewing the two of you as being in a relationship before you actually are, then he will most likely start to head for the hills.
Not 100% Sure About You
Another reason that he may be pulling back is because there’s something that he’s still not 100% sure about you. What I mean by this is there may be something about you that would ordinarily cause him to not be interested in you, but he is still finding you very attractive in other ways, so he assessing his feelings about you to see if he is really as keen as he thinks he is.
Some examples of this may be if there is a big age gap between the two of you that he feels may be an issue at some point in the relationship. You could me either much older or much younger than him, which could be causing he to have some doubts.
In this scenario, it is good to let him have his space to mull it over, but at the same time, make sure you show him all your great qualities when you are with him and give him a lot of good reasons to carry on dating you if you do still want to see him.
He’s just not that into you
Unfortunately, this can also be a possibility. There may have been some initial attraction, which brought the two of you together in some way, but if that has worn off, he may be starting to look for the exit.
If this is the case, then unfortunately you don’t have much choice but to accept it and graciously move on.
If you need some more insight into why he may be going cold on you, then here is a great video with a few more ideas and reasons for this.
Hopefully this has helped to give you a little more insight. Come back soon for more info about guys and dating!